Before we begin, let me invite you to take one deep, cleansing breath…
Inhale slowly through the nose
Gentle pause
Exhale softly through the mouth
Begin to notice what’s holding you right now. Is it your bed, your couch, a chair, the floor —maybe even a seat on public transportation? Whatever it is, how does it feel to be held in this way?
Soft
Supportive
Firm
Gentle
Maybe you start to feel yourself settle into that space a little more deeply, allowing it to support you, allowing something else to hold you for a moment.
Relax your jaw
Release your shoulders
Soften your eyebrows
Know that you have nowhere else to be right now but here. This moment is all that truly exist.
Once more — inhale through the nose…
and exhale slowly through the mouth
Now… in this space lets dream up your perfect fall day.
Maybe the air is crisp while still softly holding onto some warmth from the season before, signaling that change is quietly on the horizon. The trees dance in colors that widen your eyes, almost forcing you to pause in awe — muted golds, deep reds, burnt orange… can you smell it? The way the air carries the scent of fallen leaves and rich soil beneath your feet. Have you pulled out your favorite sweater yet — the one you curl up in on the first cool day, the one that brings a sense of safety and gentleness?
Ahh, that subtle shift is here — the soft invitation of the season that naturally pulls you toward warmth, tenderness, and rest. The one that begins to call you back home.
Welcome to your luteal phase.
Such a misunderstood phase.
For so long, we’ve labeled her only as PMS, bloating, irritability, PMDD…
“We only have a good two weeks as women — after that it sucks.”
“I’m such a b%tch before my period.”
“I can’t stand when someone even looks at me before my period.”
“Nothing is satisfying me, I just can’t stop eating — wtf.”
“I’m so ugly during my luteal phase I can’t even look at myself.”
“Wtf is worse than the two weeks before your period?”
These words — these labels, and a million more — don’t even begin to scratch the surface of what I’ve heard in my lifetime as a woman.
The message has always been loud and clear about what being a woman during this time in your cycle is supposed to look like:
The two weeks before your period suck.
Get used to it.
That’s life, honey.
You’re meant to be a raging b%tch who can’t stop eating, can’t stop crying, can hardly stand the sight of her body in the mirror — labeled crazy simply because her period is coming.
Right?
In the softest, most gentle whisper I can offer… no.
Are you a “crazed” woman with no emotional control —
or have you spent weeks, months, maybe years using everything you have to keep emotions buried because they feel too scary to touch?
Because showing them means becoming everything the world has told you not to be?
Then your luteal phase arrives.
The veil begins to thin.
The water in the teapot starts to boil just a little too hard.
The emotions you’ve been holding suddenly feel impossible to keep in.
So they spill out.
They show up as PMS.
As PMDD.
As irritability, tears, overwhelm.
They show up so loudly that it feels like your ability to hold emotion disappears — and by the time your period comes, you hardly recognize the woman you were just days before.
Are you a hunger-crazed animal with no control —
or is your body simply working harder, softly asking for support?
Asking you to meet her with extra meals, extra snacks, more rest, deeper nourishment?
Is it really possible — five extra pounds in a week or two??????????
Or is your body doing exactly what she’s meant to do…
holding a bit of extra water as progesterone rises?
You see, as women, we’ve spent a lifetime being told untruths about our bodies.
That rage is shameful and should be hidden.
That needing to be held means you’re weak — incapable even, unable to handle it all.
That because of our cyclical nature, we should try harder.
Do more.
Prove ourselves.
Prove we can work just as hard.
Just as long.
Just as consistently.
But where has that thinking brought us?
So many of us walking around believing — accepting — that our bodies were designed to work against us. That she is the enemy.
When I first began writing this, I planned to go into the ways you can begin to support and work with your body during this phase — but I know now that deserves its own space. So there will be a part two.
For now, I invite you to simply absorb what you’ve read today.
The words that landed somewhere unexpected.
The ones that asked you to pause.
The ones that gently revealed all the ways you’ve been taught to separate from your body… to misunderstand her.
I always feel called to remind you that I’ve been here too — that you and I are reflections of one another, reflections of wise women.
I’ve spent years air-punching imaginary faces, slamming bedroom doors, screaming at the top of my lungs when no one was around — secretly hoping someone would finally hear me… only to start my period and say
“Whoa… I really am f%cking crazy, huh?”
Your luteal phase is not your enemy.
She is your soft welcome home.
She’s inviting you to dip just one toe into the water —
the water that will wash you, free you, carry you gently to the surface, and welcome you back to yourself.
We’ll talk more in the next blog about how to connect with this phase — how to begin befriending her, how to soften the judgments you’ve been taught to place upon her.
But for now, I leave you here.
I love you, always — just as you are.
Sabrina 🤍
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